Advice From Mom – Relationships Take Effort
All relationships take some effort on your part. Stay in touch with your friends and family – make an effort to do that. It’s really, really important! Relationships will die if you allow them to. This applies to friends, family members and spouses.
Good relationships take hard work. Sustaining a relationship over years is not for the faint of heart. All relationships – friends, family, and spouse – can be joyful, life affirming, satisfying, and fun – but the tradeoff is that it takes work. Doing well at your career takes work. So does staying in shape. Why shouldn’t having a good relationship take work, too?
How many times have you said:
“I need to call Mom”
“I wonder what my sister is up to?”
“It’s been too long since I’ve seen Lesa”
“How long has it been since I had a really good conversation with my uncle?”
“It’s time to have a date night with my spouse”
“It’s time to spend some quality time with my kids”
We make time for what’s important in our lives. Sometimes it’s work, sometimes it’s play. Many of us take for granted that we still have a mom, dad or grandparent around that we can call, or that our spouse still wants to go have a date night.
And don’t get me started on how fast kids grow up and leave.
Stay in touch. And I don’t mean by “liking” a Facebook or Instagram post. It’s good to be able to see what our loved ones are up to, but to really be in a relationship means giving a little of your time to stay connected, especially in this time when being connected in person is so much harder.
A quick phone call, a text message, or even one of those “old fashioned” greeting cards are all an easy way to reach out and say “You’re important to me, I love you, and I wanted you to know.”
Don’t take them for granted. Our favorite old lady won’t be around forever and I for one will make sure that I check in every chance I get and let her know how important she is to me and that I love her.
I love you, Mom. This Thanksgiving and always, I’m grateful for all you’ve done for me and all the love you still give.