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Listen to Your Kids – Advice From Mom

September 30, 2020 0 By: GayleHope

Listen to your children when they are little – if you don’t – they won’t talk to you when they’re teenagers.

 

Sometimes it’s pretty hard to listen to your children. I know. I’ve been there. “Mom. Hey Mom. Mom. Hey. Hey Mom. Mom.”

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When kids are little and they want to talk to you, it’s probably about something insignificant. Maybe a kid in school said something funny or they played a new game on the playground. 

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Maybe they had a dream and they want to describe every. single. detail. Or they watched a movie and they want to recount every. single. detail.

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Don’t they realize that we are BUSY? We have jobs and dinner to cook and their dirty clothes to wash and lunches to pack and grocery stores to frequent. Sigh. We have to drive them to activities and to the doctor and dentist. 

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I know I’ve done it. Half-heartedly paid attention while muttering the occasional “Oh, really?” or “MmmmHmmm, that’s great!”

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But remember, what may seem insignificant to you is not to your children. And while it’s healthy to set those boundaries for them when Mommy is on the phone with a client or Daddy is busy putting your new electric Jeep together, it’s also so important that you take a deep breath and make time to listen.

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Why? Because listening to them now with patience and understanding lets them know they are safe with you. As they grow into teenagers, they need to understand that on a very deep level. Once they are in middle and high school, you’re going to want to know what kind of people they are meeting and how their friend influence them. You’ll want to talk to them about social media, peer pressure and a whole host of other issues.

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Why? Because listening to them now with patience and understanding lets them know they are safe with you. As they grow into teenagers, they need to understand that on a very deep level. Once they are in middle and high school, you’re going to want to know what kind of people they are meeting and how their friend influence them. You’ll want to talk to them about social media, peer pressure and a whole host of other issues.

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There are ways to improve your listening skills, and listening to your kids makes it more likely that they listen to you – and what parent doesn’t want that? 

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